Making a career change is stressful. It doesn\u2019t matter what age, race or gender you are, it\u2019s just not an easy thing to do, but people do it often. It\u2019s widely reported that people stay at their jobs for only about 4 years on average, but the data for changing careers is hazier. It\u2019s a fact however that most people change careers several times in the course of a working lifetime. A Fidelity Investments survey done in December, 2021 showed that 39% of respondents were planning to change jobs in 2022, and I\u2019m sure a large number were looking at a different career altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A New Landscape<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n COVID19 has changed the workplace landscape. For many it has added to the stresses of their jobs and made their futures less predictable. This is especially challenging for people who are in mid and late career, and for men it\u2019s a particular challenge. Even before COVID, changes were in the works for a while. Traditional jobs were being outsourced and replaced with short-term projects, contracts and assignments. Gone are the days of the traditional linear, up the ladder, career path which many experienced male workers were used to. It\u2019s a dynamic workplace these days, and work is being redefined. For many men, that means redefining themselves to fit the new paradigm. It\u2019s not easy but there is opportunity in this work environment for men who know how to adapt and can reassess their place in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It may sound like a stereotype but for many men in mid-life work defines who we are and gives our lives meaning. It\u2019s this vocational identity that is ingrained in the male psyche so when someone says \u201ctell me about you\u201d, we start by saying what we do for a living as if every person we meet is giving us a job interview. It\u2019s fine, and there\u2019s nothing wrong with that. It\u2019s who we are. It\u2019s our masculinity that often defines our success in society. It makes us want to feel productive and that productivity largely comes from work. Work creates meaning and purpose, which makes it all the harder when we are unemployed, or even underemployed to the extent that we lose our sense of meaningful contribution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I always tell people that change is opportunity. Uncertainly, as unsettling as it is, gives us a chance to look inward to reassess who we are and what is important to us. I know from my own experience of job hunting and career change, that one of the worst things is to stay safe within your comfort zone and just ride the wave. That\u2019s the idea behind process improvement strategies in the world of business. Never just accept the status quo as the way that is best. Always reassess and reinvent if necessary. These changing and unpredictable times offer us an opportunity to do just that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Taking Advantage of the Opportunity<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n As the well known career theorist John Krumholz noted in 1999, careers are often influenced by unexpected circumstances and unplanned events. Well, here we are in the middle of both of those things! For many men, job stability is paramount and making changes in an established career is not even a consideration, but this is a changing world. If you are not in a career that you find fulfilling and invigorating, use this time of uncertainty as a wake up call to potentially something better. Studies have shown that men who identify as being in a satisfying career also say they have a healthier family life, better personal relationships and more meaningful community engagement. Yes, you can have it all, and now is the time to think about how.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m not saying to ditch your job as a project manager and try out to be a major league baseball pitcher, but I am saying to take this time to reassess your career path and explore your options. Yes, there are many things to consider, finances being a key factor, but don\u2019t let that hold you back from brainstorming and at least testing out ideas. Once some new ideas come to light, you can do some research and reflection on the type of work that really calls to you and gives you purpose. Once you pin that down, you can chart your own course, create your own stability and have more control over your future. How do you do that? By following the three Cs<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Create<\/strong>: Create a list of possible job and\/or career options that really work for you and make you feel like you are living your life on purpose.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Communicate<\/strong>: Talk to people about these ideas, brainstorm and get feedback. Talk about what you want in life and aim high. Then keep the connections going and see if you can turn your dreams into reality.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Co-navigate<\/strong>: Don\u2019t do it alone. Whether it\u2019s with a spouse, friend, career coach, or your brother-in-law Tony, find someone who will support you on your way and help to hold you accountable.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n As a man, I struggled with all these things in the past. When you are in a career, the last thing you want to do is rock the boat and think about how you can make some big changes. Communication can be a challenge too, and men are not typically encouraged to share how they feel and what they want out of life but trust me, it really helps to speak your mind. It\u2019s your life after all! And as for co-navigating, I always thought I could handle things on my own and be self-reliant but I found out that it held me back and slowed me down from making progress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Control the Situation<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ve been there so I know what it\u2019s like to feel stuck in a job and not know a way out. I got tired of it all so I started to open my mind to possibilities and make some changes. They didn\u2019t all work out but I found that just going through the process led to greater confidence and resilience, and a greater openness to look at how I can best live my life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe you are OK with where you are in your life and career but is OK good enough? Only you can decide that but I encourage all you men out there to take stock of where you stand, take control of your future, and see if you can make it better. And not just for you but for the people around you. We\u2019ve all had that grumpy boss or coworker who just brings everyone down and sucks all of the air out of the room. Plenty of people are not doing what they really want for a living, and that makes them less productive, less focused, and really not that much fun to be around. I can tell you from experience, doing what you want to be doing in a career is a win-win for everyone around you. Sign me up for that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s a changing world, which is a great time to initiate self-directed change rather than have unexpected circumstances forced upon you. If you are a take-charge kind of guy, now is your time! Resist the temptation to automatically do what is safe and comfortable, at least until you have considered your options. Remember, change is opportunity. Here\u2019s your chance to take advantage of this opportunity and see if you can improve your work life, as well as your overall quality of life. You can do this guys. It just takes a new perspective, and the courage to say \u201cI deserve better\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Making a career change is stressful. It doesn\u2019t matter what age, race or gender you are, it\u2019s just not an easy thing to do, but people do it often. It\u2019s widely reported that people stay at their jobs for only about 4 years on average, but the data for changing careers is hazier. 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